How To Get Through The Holidays

Let’s face it, the holiday season can be a really complicated time of year—especially when it comes spending time and engaging with family. This time of year can trigger uncomfortable memories and big feelings like grief, sadness, anxiety, stress, anger, frustration, jealousy, contempt, guilt, shame, and so much more. That’s why, in this week’s video blog, I offer you a powerful tool that you can use at any time to help you prepare for, support yourself through and self-care after this holiday season. Check it out.

Here’s how this meditation will help you get through the holidays:

Mudra (Hand Position)

By placing your hands at/in front of the center of the chest, you’re connecting with your Heart Centre (also known as the 4th Chakra, Heart Chakra and Anahata). This is the energy center from which love, joy, happiness and compassion emanate from. It allows us to be vulnerable and to feel the big feelings which is essential in connecting to ourselves, to others and understanding our place in the world. The Heart Centre offers us the opportunity to forgive—ourselves and others—and to live our lives from a place of neutrality, where we are no longer attached to the judgements and the perceptions that we place on others. In other words, it releases old resentments so that it may be free to fly from our minds, our bodies and our spirits.

Pressing the fingertips together helps to neutralize the energies associated with each finger. In the Kundalini Yoga tradition, the thumb is associated with the ego; the index finger is associated with the planet Jupiter; the middle finger is associated with the planet Saturn; the ring finger is associated with the Sun; and the pinky finger is associated with the planet Mercury.

By pressing the thumb tips together, you’re neutralizing the ego so that you can perceive your relationships from a place of clarity and intuitive guidance.

By pressing the index fingertips together, you’re balancing the jupiter energy which encourages expansion. Family drama can bring the worst out in all of us. Working with the jupiter energy allows us to decide if we want expand in a way that will increase that chaotic energy or if we want to expand in a way that will increase the peace.

Pressing the tips of the middle fingers together encourages patience, discernment, and commitment. It offers you the patience to work through whatever emotions, thoughts and experiences you need to on your time and no one else’s. The discernment to know what situations are safe for you enter and which ones are not. And the commitment (and courage) to do whatever shadow work is necessary to help you move through, explore, and hopefully find some level of peace with whatever situation you’re going through with your family.

Pressing the ring fingers together encourages a strong nervous system. If your family is consistently triggering you then chances are you’re sympathetic (fight or flight) nervous system is in overdrive. Meditating with this mudra will (overtime) neutralize the effects of your families actions allowing you to cope and find ease in stressful, irritating, and triggering situations.

Finally, by pressing the pinky fingers together, you’re opening yourself up to the capacity to communicate clearly and intuitively, rather than from a place and fear and ego. There is a way to communicate boundaries, needs, anxieties and frustrations without causing more drama and projecting harm onto others. This mudra gives you the ability to do so.

Drishti (Eye Focus)

A drishti is used in Kundalini Yoga as a way to elevate consciousness and benefit the glandular system. Focusing at the tip of the nose is said to stimulate the Crown Chakra, pineal gland (through the optic nerve) and the frontal lobe.

Having a complicated relationship with your family can sometimes leave you feeling alone and unsupported. The Crown Chakra allows you to feel connected to something greater than yourself (i.e, God, the Universe, etc), so that you never have to experience that loneliness again.

Losing sleep stressing out about the holidays? The pineal gland is responsible for producing melatonin and regulates your sleep cycle.

Are you constantly in defensive or reaction mode during the holidays? That’s because your reptilian brain is designed to take over during times of extreme stress or fear. Your frontal lobe, on the other hand, allows you to chill, sit with the stressor for a moment and then decide how to respond in a way that keeps you feeling safe and in alignment with your values.

Breathing Technique

DId you know that the average person breathes at a rate of 16-20 cycles per minute? That means that the majority of us have developed a personalized breath signature that is shallow, erratic, and way too fast. Learning to breathe deeply and completely is probably the most effective way of developing higher consciousness and for increasing health, vitality and an overall connectedness to one’s life.

In this meditation, we slow the breath way down so that we’re breathing 4 cycles per minute. Breathing in this way is said to increase positive shifts in mental function, intense feelings of awareness (which may seem scary at first), increased visual clarity, heightened body sensitivity, and induce a deep meditative state.

Breathing slowly and deeply as works wonders on your nervous system because it stimulates the parasympathetic (rest and digest) nervous system, giving you the opportunity relax and calm down in moments of intense stress.

I sincerely hope this meditation serves you. If you give it a try, please let me know how it goes in the comments section below. And if you know someone in your life who could really benefit from this meditation, please feel free to forward this post to them.

All my love this holiday season…